All black everything! I wore my favorite black skinny jeans with this black mesh puff-sleeve top. Paired with black calf-high boots with silver studs or with black stilettos, it’s a killer look any way you wear it. Streamlined, sexy, and modern, I feel super hot and badass in this outfit, like the kind of woman who knows what she wants and gets it.
It’s those feelings that bring to mind “Urgent” by Foreigner. What a hot song! A mutual, urgent need for a person is never not a turn-on to me, it’s passion at it’s most heightened and sexiest, and I love that. However, the lyrics in “Urgent” imply that all they relate to is their urgent physical drive for each other, and he expresses the frustration and uncertainty of it in the verses, which isn’t very ideal to me. Even just in the context of intimacy–with a romantic partner, sometimes you’re in the mood for the slow, romantic, beautiful, and other times you want the animalistic, craving, lust-driven. Both are so necessary in a relationship, I feel like if it’s only the first you get bored and if it’s only the second it fizzles out. I think finding the person you want to make love to and devour is so special and important, and to do that there has to be a romantic desire deeper than just a physical desire.
Your desire is insane
In my opinion, there are few things as explosive as finding a person you feel that all-encompassing connection with.
Listen to it here! “Urgent”-Foreigner
I love indulgent pajamas, there’s nothing more luxurious feeling than a pair of silky, ultra-comfortable pjs. This is a gorgeous set in the traditional sleep shirt and pants style, and I love the black and red floral print, it feels so sultry and reminiscent of the opera “Carmen” to me. If I’m having a night in, I love to throw these on with a pair of slippers and feel so cozy and pampered.
What better song for beautiful sleepwear than “When You Close Your Eyes” by Night Ranger? I love this song, it’s so passionate and has the right amounts of longing and nostalgia to make my chest ache. I love the way he starts each bridge with “I remember,” he sings those words with such raw emotion that it gives me a rush of emotion each time. There’s something so innocent and sweet about hoping someone dreams about you, like you’ve accepted that you can’t have them in the real world, so you hope they’re at least yours in dreams. I find that so sad and heartwarming at the same time!
We’re older now
Do you still think about me
Sometimes I think it’d be funny if the object of the singer’s desire responded and was like yeah, you’re in my nightmares…and I wonder, what would be worse, being forgotten or being loathed?
Listen to it here! “When You Close Your Eyes”-Night Ranger
Some of my favorite tops are simple t-shirts with an added embellishment to give it a little extra oomph. Take this J.Crew baseball style tee with a simple white body and grey sleeves, made special with a pretty jeweled neckline in pale pink, jade green, and shining silver shades. I love feminine touches like this, they make me feel effortlessly chic and polished. I wore this top with light pink pants for a soft, pastel look.
A great soft rock song to go with this pretty outfit is “Just Between You and Me” by April Wine. This is another example of a song that I hear on the radio from time to time and am like oh yeah, this song! The lyrics remind me of “A Matter of Trust” by Billy Joel, in that they too list all these ways couples fail but then reassures that the couple at hand are the exception. I find this song deeply romantic, and I like that it’s a mellow, easy listener with snippets of electric guitar riffs throughout it.
Just between you, just between you and me
I really do love the notion of “just between you and me,” because with the right person it does feel like you’re in your own world, and no one else needs to know the depth or details of your relationship.
Listen to it here! “Just Between You and Me”-April Wine
This bright red-orange dress is so bold and feminine! A corset bust with bow, cap sleeves, and a tight fit make this a dress to stand out in, even before you factor in the vivid color. I really love anything with a corset, it makes me feel like a French maiden or a 1940s starlet (some of my many dream lives.) And corsets automatically mean no bras, win-win! I feel like a siren in this dress, poised and put together but with a seductive undertone.
The fit of this dress makes me think of “Crocodile Rock” by Elton John, particularly the lyrics “Oh lordy mama, those Friday nights, when Susie wore her dresses tight.” This song is impossible not to dance to, it’s the perfect beat to let loose and move. I have so many memories of dancing like a loon with friends to this, even in a car once driving back from a sporting event. I feel like dancing in this dress to “Crocodile Rock” would be so fitting and perfect, I need to make this happen!
I never knew me a better time and I guess I never will
One day I’ll track down some of the videos my friends have of me dancing, when I get totally swept away by a song and totally submit to the music and go crazy…truly some of my most carefree, happiest moments on earth.
Listen to it here! “Crocodile Rock”-Elton John
I’m obsessed with this gorgeous long sleeve lightweight t-shirt, the colors remind me of sorbet and I think it’s so pretty and cheerful. With casual jeans and dark brown ankle boots, it’s a look I’d wear out and about or to work. I feel so bright and happy wearing this color scheme, and I love when you don’t have to sacrifice comfort for beautiful, mood-setting pieces.
When I wear this I start to hear “Kodachrome” by Paul Simon in my head, because of the “nice bright colors,” naturally. I love Paul Simon (and Simon and Garfunkel) because it’s refreshing to listen to songs that tend to be about random subjects rather than the more typical matters of love and heartbreak. “Me and Julio Down by the School Yard,” “I Am A Rock,” and “Homeward Bound” are all catchy, fun songs that change things up a bit, as does “Kodachrome.” His music also manages to be upbeat and laid back at the same time, making it great to have on in the car or at parties.
Makes you think all the world’s a sunny day
“Kodachrome” makes me think of my friend Lindsey, particularly the lyrics about high school in the beginning. Lindsey and I were the rebellious Catholic school girls your parents warned you about, and we were infamous for opting out of school functions to go to the museum or drive down to the lakefront. One time we ended up at Harley Fest on Brady Street…and that was definitely an example of not letting schooling get in the way of our education. I loved school, I really did! I really do love learning, and I value formal education so much. I just think there’s also so much to be learned outside the walls of a school…and our high school was not the best example of inclusivity and leadership, to say the least.
Listen to it here! “Kodachrome”-Paul Simon
I love this menswear inspired oversized blazer! Boxy instead of a traditional fit, it’s on trend and makes me feel extra ambitious, like I could start my own production company or become a director. I kept it simple with a black tank, dark blue jeans, and black ankle booties. This is a perfect look for the transitions into fall and spring, when it’s too chilly to go without a jacket but too warm for anything heavy or insulated.
“Lido Shuffle” by Boz Scaggs is a great song for a look that makes you feel motivated, particularly about your career. This song is so fun and happy, even though it’s definitely about someone trying to break out of gambling debts. The music is so hopeful though! You get the sense that he’s the underdog and you’re rooting for him, though it’s fairly vague and I’m very suspicious of what exactly he’s gotten into…I draw the line at being a hitman or something.
Lido’s waitin’ for the go, Lido
I’m also very much dating myself by admitting I listen to Boz Scaggs…how old does that make me at heart, 50, 60?
Listen to it here! “Lido Shuffle”-Boz Scaggs
This is essentially a Canadian Tuxedo, but I’m telling myself it’s not because the shirt isn’t actually denim, it just looks like it could be. I got this light blue button down at Zara a few years ago, and I love the beaded pattern on the back that reminds me of the Southwest. I wore it with relaxed fit jeans and my forest green Sorel boots for an outdoorsy, “gettin’ shit done” look.
This kind of outfit makes me turn on Lynyrd Skynyrd, because their music always makes me feel energized and badass. “What’s Your Name” is ridiculously catchy, in terms of both tune and lyrics. It has that “devil-may-care” edge that Lynyrd Skynyrd mastered, and makes me want to turn it up and rock out every time I hear it. I’m also a sucker for any classic rock song that uses the phrase “little girl,” I find it so endearing and such a turn-on.
Shootin’ you straight, little girl
Won’t you do the same
One time years ago when I was at Hogs and Heifers (remember that place?!), this song came on and my friends and I went nuts, dancing and singing and we may have even done the dance on the bar thing…ah, to be (that) young in New York! You feel like the world is yours, in a way that no other city can match.
Listen to it here! “What’s Your Name”-Lynyrd Skynyrd
A mauve lace dress like this makes me think of springtime in London, because it’s sophisticated, charming, and feels the perfect amount of proper without being stuffy or overbearing. I feel very graceful and elegant in this dress, and like I should be attending a garden party or receiving guests at a stately event. I also feel devastatingly romantic; this dress was made to be grabbed around the waist and kissed on the neck in.
A beautiful song to match the mood of this outfit is “You Got It” by Roy Orbison. I love Roy’s music, and this song is amongst my favorites. So lovely and dreamy, the music has a classic, old-time feel to it, which is perfect for the timeless lyrics. The kind of love Roy sings about is all-encompassing, and reminds me of classic Hollywood movies where the passion is always palpable and undeniable.
Every time I hold you I begin to understand
Everything about you tells me I’m your man
I live my life to be with you
No one can do the things you do
Can that kind of love be found in real life? Yes, but I do think it’s more rare than I believed growing up on classic Hollywood movies. But that makes it even more special! And more recognizable when you find it.
Listen to it here! “You Got It”-Roy Orbison
This cream colored maxi dress is so dreamy and sweet. Braided straps, a soft marled knit material, and lace details at the skirt make this a delicate, feminine, and effortless style. It has a bohemian feel to it, and I think it fits well in a natural or city setting. I could see myself in this barefoot on a lake or in gladiator sandals and with a jean jacket thrown on walking down an avenue.
And I can definitely see myself wearing this as an accompaniment to “You Make Loving Fun” by Fleetwood Mac. One of my favorites of theirs, “You Make Loving Fun” is a sweet, feel-good song that’s fun to sing along to and great to play when you’re feeling romantic-borderline-sappy. I love the lyrics, all about magic and miracles, and the way the music picks up at the end when she finally sings the titular lyric is so full of emotion and joy, it makes me feel so deeply happy.
You, you make loving fun
And I don’t have to tell you but you’re the only one
I like that line a lot, because that’s how it should be ideally, right? You just know that you’re on the same page and are equally special to each other. Realistically though, I feel like today, you kind of do have to tell someone if they’re the only one…it seems like people date much more casually and exclusivity isn’t as expected. I think people are surprised sometimes how traditional or “old-school” I am when it comes to dating, and sometimes it’s based on skewed presumptions. I am a very sexual person, who’s very in touch with her sexuality, but I’ve never had a one-night stand and I have to have a deeper attraction to someone beyond just physical lust. Being a super sexual person is not synonymous with being into multiple casual partners, one-night stands, or sleeping around. There is NO SHAME in enjoying those things, they’re just not for me, and the assumption that if you’re sexual then you must be doing them is so outdated and backwards. You can be very sexy, love sex, and embrace your sexuality and STILL be selective and only channel it towards connections you deem meaningful. Sometimes I think the push is so big right now for “women can sleep around too!” and I agree with that, but in the larger context of “women can just be themselves!!!!”
This is a great dark red turtleneck dress that’s perfect for fall/winter. Red is my favorite color to wear, and this deep red shade is irresistible to me. It’s a bodycon style, so it’s super curve-hugging, but the material isn’t super thin and the turtleneck gives it a little bit of a balance. I usually wear this with brown calf length boots or short black ankle booties.
The solid red color makes me think of “Devil Woman” by Cliff Richard. I had never heard this song until a friend in high school used to sing “she’s just a Sheltie woman, with kibbles on her mind” to my parents’ dog Penny, and I had no idea what she was spoofing before she played me this song. And I love it! It’s spooky, sexy, and mysterious, some of my favorite things! There’s something so fun and mischievously enjoyable about embracing and singing along to a song about an evil woman…and I think it’s partly because there’s that small part of me that daydreams about being the bad girl, and partly because in a sense it feels like reclaiming labels men have used to shame women throughout history, which is empowering in and of itself.
Beware the devil woman
She’s gonna get you
Who are we kidding though, I don’t have the emotional disconnect needed to ever really be an “evil woman”…the minute I think I’m even slightly hurting someone, I turn into a puddle.
Listen to it here! “Devil Woman”-Cliff Richard